Happy Monday to all of you wherever you live!
Lately, I’ve spent some time here talking about how to live a dream-affirmative life that achieves your goals and objectives. All of this may sound like “airy fairy” stuff because you don’t understand what these really mean for living your life every day.
For this week’s blog, I want to share a brief excerpt from a much longer conversation with my friend, CHEK student and very successful entrepreneur Elliott Hulse, on my Living 4D With Paul Chek podcast that touches on this very subject.
This journey to discovering, realizing and achieving your dreams begins with a passage to adulthood which can often be difficult and painful but very necessary to your future.
In our conversation, Elliott and I talk about how modern society has lost many traditions that have helped young men evolve into adulthood.
Minus that transition into adulthood, our society is left with young men struggling in an eternal child state, living and reliving their childhood deep into adulthood in an extended state of puberty, and being unable to step away from their parents shadow once and for all.
Elliott discusses his tough transition into adulthood, faced with raising a young family and growing amounts of debt from college loans, credit cards and starting his own business.
The best way to start that initiation process into adulthood, Elliott says, may mean taking forceful measures. Sometimes, it takes “something courageous or crazy” that forces a young person to grow up, whether it’s moving out of your parents’ home and living in your car or even joining the military (with its own set of initiations).
From there, I talk about my own initiation into adulthood as a young father who was too proud to accept any form of welfare. In fact, from the age of 12, I was chomping at the bit to get out of my parents’ home and away from their control, to be who I wanted to be in the world.
I really believe there’s an unconscious drive of individuation we have, that lets us know when it’s time to move on with adulthood and contribute to something much greater than ourselves.
This brief excerpt ends with Elliott recommending a great book, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can do About It by Drs. Warren Farrell and James Gray, that describe this serious crisis among boys becoming men and how we as parents can better handle it.
In the rest of the podcast episode, Elliott and I talk even deeper about a great many things, including the lack of values in our culture, the motivational power of anger and fear and the differences between ethics and morals (read all of the Show Notes for this podcast here).
Look for my next podcast, the last of my two-part conversation with extreme athlete Danny Way, this week on your platform of choice or subscribe here.
Love and chi,
Paul
